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Living with your Parents in a Lockdown

Hello everyone, so good to have you here again and thank you because you’re the real MVPs to be honest. It is not easy to have your parents in your space (technically it is their space and not yours, but who cares you live there too) all the time for almost five weeks now (five weeks you did not plan for). But at the end of the day it is what it is.

These past few weeks, I have honestly had more arguments with my parents than I can possibly remember and I will not be surprised if we have more. I obviously spend more time in school than I do at home and my friends know me better to an extent because of the fact that I have spent more time with them in the last couple of years, so sometimes I wish my parents would just get it like my friends do.

 There was this situation recently where there was sort of an issue with an instruction my mum gave and how my sister and I carried it out. She mentioned that we did the exact opposite of what she asked us to do and I was a hundred percent sure that we did exactly what she told us to do and followed the instructions properly so I was confused and the angry girl in me would not let it slide. After some few minutes of going back and forth over what she said, I finally realized it was a case of Yoruba words and how one thing sounds like a million entirely different things (such stress!).

The situation made me realize how a lot of misunderstandings with our parents (not only your parents actually) are just based on bad communication, where you don’t receive the actual message they intended to pass across to you and vice versa. If I didn’t figure out that it was just some error in the whole communication process, I would have probably been so angry and just given myself unnecessary headache for a couple of hours. It is important you listen, and it is also very important that you pass out your information in very clear terms. Don’t let your parents have a hard time understanding you and parents please understand us. I feel a lot of parents would understand their children better if they actually listened and paid more attention and would not always dish out commands and not always want to be right. We know you love us.

This is a good time to improve your relationship with your parents. I have come to realize that they are bored too. They would have most likely popped in your room to have conversations, play games or like my mum want to learn how to use Tiktok.  You should try too, please emphasis on not locking yourself up in your room all day and only coming out to eat *lol*. Watch movies together, play games, ask for their opinions on different issues (you would most likely have gotten a good laugh if you showed your parents the $21,000 story), and a whole lot of other things. There is really no way of dealing with it, a lot of young people (Toyosi included) tend to forget that parents are really just humans with feelings learning more about you daily. It is not possible for them to suddenly have you all figured out like some magician, it takes time.

Thank you for reading and please and please I really hope you all stay safe in the best way that you could. A big thank you to all the health care workers and other people on the frontline putting themselves at risk at this time for our sakes, we will all get through this. Text a friend today to say hi and tell them how much you care. Till next time, you already know you have my love

TTA <3

My name is Toyosi Adeniran (actually “Adeniran Ifeoluwatoyosi Abigail” which is quite long lol ) and just call me “TheToyosiAdeniran” because I feel like the ‘the’ gives it this catch and makes it seem like it’s just one name. You know the way some people say they are something by day and another thing by night, well I am a medical student everyday (both day and night). I am also an aspiring public speaker and very passionate about people knowing their rights and having those rights protected. And above all, I am a Christian and my faith is very important to me.

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