Saying the Right things

Hey everyone and how have you been? I really do hope you have been fine despite everything that might have been going on. If you are new here, welcome and if this is not your first time of being here, thank you for coming back, you really deserve all the love.

The last week and the early parts of this week were a ride for me. I had problems with comments from different people on different issues. I could not really express myself the way I would have wanted on social media because people are entitled to their opinions and some other reasons which is basically the reason why I am writing this post.

What bothered me was some comments some people had made in certain situations. The thing is that they were on a spectrum, ranging from not wrong but not needed to the extremely wrong ones. In my head it usually played out as me screaming “you did not need to say this ahhhhhhh”. I watched all these scenarios and definitely how those comments served as triggers for a lot of people and then everyone is going down that spiral lol.

About a year ago, I learnt something from one of my teachers at church where she spoke about some things being lawful but not expedient. I had heard about it several times prior to that time but I do not think I ever really understood it till that time. It made me realize some things were not wrong but they were not necessary like absolutely not worth it. You know that thing where they say some things are better left unsaid, it is very true. There are some statements that you should not make, there are some takes you should not give. I believe it is absolutely very unfair and wrong to say things that are not worth it to purposely trigger people and make them mad or just completely disregard their feelings. I say “worth it” because there are some things that must be said regardless of what may follow. I mean in situations of social injustice, politics and some other scenarios, some things have to be said. An example is when someone loses a friend or relative or someone dear to them, you are aware it just happened and you are probably in some sort of space with that person and next thing you say is “thank God I am alive”. I would never get this particular scenario. I mean yes we should constantly be grateful to God for life but not uttering that statement at that particular point in time does not make you any less grateful to God and that is the truth. It just means you love the people around you enough to take their feelings into regard. Also, it is important to say sorry when you have made a statement that may have sparked a reaction which may have come off as insensitive or offensive in a way you did not intend- apologies make things better really.

I really hope we make some effort and just see how it improves our relationships with people both online and in person. Thank you for stopping by, it means the world to me. I hope you have an amazing week ahead. I learnt something this week from my friend, she said “live in all definition of Live”. This made a lot of sense to me because of recent happenings and I have been reminded of how it important it is to actually live freely, fearlessly, and doing the things that matter. So going forward, please live in all definition of the word live! You have all my love always.


My name is Toyosi Adeniran (actually “Adeniran Ifeoluwatoyosi Abigail” which is quite long lol ) and just call me “TheToyosiAdeniran” because I feel like the ‘the’ gives it this catch and makes it seem like it’s just one name. You know the way some people say they are something by day and another thing by night, well I am a medical student everyday (both day and night). I am also an aspiring public speaker and very passionate about people knowing their rights and having those rights protected. And above all, I am a Christian and my faith is very important to me.


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