Hello everyone! I am so happy at the moment and I feel so good writing this post for a reason I do not even know. I know I promised that I will be consistent but I am still getting a hang of it. I was not going to drop a post today but I changed my mind because it is March 8, the International Women’s day *inserts dramatic theme song*. I do not remember being this aware and interested during IWD last year but this year is so different for me because I can remember when I was in junior secondary school some years back and I can clearly see how so much has changed and it makes me so happy that women are getting so many things done and are changing the narrative.
I was having a conversation with my friend Eniola recently, we are both in our third year of medical school and we have been friends since our first year. She said that we had both grown so much since we met and I could not help but agree. We stand up for what we believe in and our opinions are more defined now and it has been such a thrilling experience. There are some things I believe in now that a “Toyosi” from four years back would not even dare to speak of because I would have thought that I was setting myself up to be a “bad woman”. Feminism is such a beautiful thing, and I like to think that it is unfair to make such a good thing more about what it is not rather than what it really is. Women have achieved so much simply by starting conversations on social media. So many people like me have been educated and it is absolutely ridiculous that some people think that women talking about their struggles somehow discredits the male gender or invalidates their struggles.
Keeping quiet should no longer be an option. It is very easy to ignore the little things because we have normalised bad behaviour and patriarchy in our society, but it is really these things that matter. Baby steps are so important. I used to feel that I was an overthinker and I was taking a lot of these situations too seriously because everyone else was tolerating it, but I was not overthinking it, everyone else was just used to it. A lot of us were born into this society and this is just what we grew up learning so we have become so used to it. You are not aggressive or bossy or too strong simply because you decide that you are no longer going to tolerate being made to feel inferior. This year we are “choosing to challenge” as women everywhere, questioning the stereotypes and demanding for change!
To all the amazing women reading this post, I hope you choose to break out of the boxes that society has placed you in- you are beautiful and you can do anything! Thank you for stopping by to have a read, it means the world to me and I hope you enjoy the rest of your week. Friendly reminder that you are loved.
My name is Toyosi Adeniran (actually “Adeniran Ifeoluwatoyosi Abigail” which is quite long lol ) and just call me “TheToyosiAdeniran” because I feel like the ‘the’ gives it this catch and makes it seem like it’s just one name. You know the way some people say they are something by day and another thing by night, well I am a medical student everyday (both day and night). I am also an aspiring public speaker and very passionate about people knowing their rights and having those rights protected. And above all, I am a Christian and my faith is very important to me.