Happy new month beautiful people! It is always such a beautiful feeling writing here and it makes me so happy. I really hope we all enjoyed the Easter celebrations, and if nothing spectacular happened, being away from work for a few days was certainly nice. I spent my Easter in school and it was not so bad; I spent most of my time binging episodes of “All American”.
I was going to write about saying sorry to people but then, I changed my mind because disrespect has been a recurring theme in things I have been experiencing lately and some of my friends have experienced it too. A lot of people disrespect other people on a daily basis, by doing things they are aware that they are not comfortable with like making nasty comments about them and so many other things. The thing that bothers me the most is that so many young people term these situations as “it is not that deep”. Well, that is a lie – it is that deep. I remember someone saying the most inappropriate thing to me one time, and I came off very defensive because I felt very disrespected and it felt worse because I was made to feel like the girl blowing things out of proportion at that point in time.
In our society, a lot of disrespectful things have been normalized. Catcalling and touching people without their consent are part of a long list of disrespectful things that some people consider normal. And the hardest thing I had to learn is that when people express their displeasure about some things being done to them, then I should try my best not to do it. It was particularly hard because sometimes you do not understand why some people do not like some things. I think it is worse when it is something that most people do not find offensive and some random person has a problem with it. It can be really difficult but I think deciding not to get on people’s nerves goes a long way to show that you respect them.
Disrespect is not “cruise”. It is not banter and it should not be trivialised. Good people respect other people, and we are all capable of being good people. Respecting other people goes as far as waiting your turn in a line, saying sorry when you are wrong and so many other things. Respecting other people is not a function of age, social strata, religion or anything else. And I am so sure we do not like being disrespected, so why do it to other people?
We are taking charge of the new week and respecting other people while at it! My blog posts drop every other Tuesday and if I ever ghost, you can drag me by the collar. Thank you to all the amazing people reading my blog. You deserve plenty money!
Till next time,
My name is Toyosi Adeniran (actually “Adeniran Ifeoluwatoyosi Abigail” which is quite long lol ) and just call me “TheToyosiAdeniran” because I feel like the ‘the’ gives it this catch and makes it seem like it’s just one name. You know the way some people say they are something by day and another thing by night, well I am a medical student everyday (both day and night). I am also an aspiring public speaker and very passionate about people knowing their rights and having those rights protected. And above all, I am a Christian and my faith is very important to me.
Beautiful piece. Above all, very true