New Habits

These days, more often than ever, I am reminded of the greatness that I have in the people around me and I am constantly in awe. Also, I am no longer oblivious (I do not think I have ever been) that I may be growing a bit old. You get a beautiful picture of two beautiful babes to begin this post, I am in a generous mood.

This going to be a short one (I thought), but I have just wanted to put into words some sort of metamorphosis (although incomplete) that I had begun sometime earlier in the year.

Two things I wanted to get better at this year were financial responsibility and conflict resolution (sounds like something out of a social studies textbook). In essentiality, I wanted to get better at handling money and settling disputes. The money part, it was at the time the toughest new habit I had try to take on in my entire adult life- and I have not even fully gotten a hold of it. I knew there was a problem but I had never actually taken active steps to correct it because of procrastination and all other things that are the bane of the existence of a 21-year-old.

I will just be sharing things that have helped me and I will do my best to update this list as I learn new ways to get better.

1. Acknowledge that you have a problem. This was not the most difficult part for me because of personality type I guess (Foluso, this is where you come in). I do not know how best to elaborate, but it is paramount that you come to the realization that you have a problem before you begin to solve it.
2. Speak and learn about the problem. I do not think it is the easiest thing to share something you are struggling with especially if you always appear to be put together. I had to talk to my sister about it, we created a plan – “Toyosi’s path to financial freedom” and I just had some sort of guide. I also binged on a lot of content that spoke about navigating the problems, especially conflict resolution and they were really helpful.
3. Conditioning my space. I am probably still at this point. It is pretty much simple- I am avoiding situations that make me do things I would rather not do. I do not want to eat a particular food; I am not going to where it is available. This is till I finally figure it out, and I can control my impulses. I am also trying to surround myself with people who have these habits or at least are better than me, I can simply learn from their actions.

This is all I have at this point in time and I am very open to learning more, so please leave a comment or text me! I had a few highlights the past week, my baby is a month old!!! We are not your mates please, talk to us nice! I also got paid for writing, for the first time ever, is Jesus not good?

It’s exactly 21 days to my first professional examinations, going into this week with Jesus’ peace and I refuse to entertain unhealthy feelings! Plus, I know a lot of people like to say they are proud of you after they see results but I am taking this time to say I am super proud of all the work my people are putting in, super proud!

Have a great time this week everyone, sending you pounds, dollars and love!

-Big T